What are we doing to our kids ?

In keeping with cellular memory issues, the advances of technology are doing incredible harm to our kids.  In fact, technology is doing great harm to us adults as well.  With the advent of cell phones, tablets, and game boys, we are no longer engaged with personal conversation, nurturing each other, or even lifting each other up, especially our children.

You have to understand that when children are born, their brain is an empty vessel, taking in information at alarming rates.  Everything we think, say and do inputs information into their little brains, essentially mapping their growth, intelligence, and necessary responses to the world around them.  When you place technology in front of them, it changes the mapping of the brain.  They do not learn critical thinking skills, negotiation, sharing, patience, love, or even how to tie their shoes.

When they come off of a game boy or game on a cell phone or tablet their brains are racing, leaving them aggravated, grumpy, and inattentive to anything you are trying to teach them.  Children need naps in the afternoon because that helps to restore their energy while they are learning about the world.  When you inject electronic games instead of naps they become difficult to deal with.  Happy children are taught simple skills like building blocks, making things, expressing their thoughts through pictures they draw and playing with each other.

It is certainly a hard road for parents today.  Not only do we have to work to pay for all this technology which has literally taken over our collective worlds, we have formed addictions to texting and gaming.  We leave our creative juices behind and place them at the back of our consciousness, feeling anxiety when we don’t hear back immediately from someone we have texted.  We, as adults, are cranky, depressed, and tired all the time.  We believe that if we could just engage our children in something that does not require our attention for just a little while, everything would be fine.  Unfortunately, we are compounding the problem.

Technology is great for some things, and runs the direction of manufacturing, economics, and the world.  We are so overloaded with information from our livelihoods, that when we come home, we believe we have to continue on that vein.  We have lost the ability to step off the roller coaster and take a much needed break, rejuvenating ourselves and our families.

Something has to change.  Are you willing to take a 30-day challenge?   How would you feel about putting your phone down for 30 days.  No texting, no checking your phone every minute of the day; just place it in a basket or such at the front door when you come home.  Anyone game?

Children and cellular memory

Why do I write about cellular memory?  Because it affects everything we think, say and do.  Children begin formulating cellular memory from the moment they are conceived in the womb.  Fifty percent from the mom, and fifty percent from the dad.  The mother’s cell and the father’s sperm combine to form a “unicell” that begins to grow as that new little human being.  Their cellular memory being formulated takes into consideration all of the elements of the pregnancy including everything the mom and dad think, say and do during that little embryo’s growth.  If dad walks away and says it isn’t my problem, that child (embryo) will feel abandonment even though they are in the womb.  If the mom decides to give that child up when born, that child will feel abandoned.  It takes an enormous amount of loving, caring, and cuddling on the part of adoptive parents for the child to feel loved again.
How do I know all of this?  All of the six children in my family including me and five brothers and sisters were taken from our mom after our dad abandoned all of us and ended up in prison, tumbling our mother into a complete mental and emotional breakdown.
All of us had abandonment issues, and have spent an adult lifetime reconciling those feelings to become whole and happy human beings again.  It is a journey that requires much work.
Back to children: The embryo is formulating  cellular memory in the womb, including much more than abandonment issues, but involving every element of life.  That little baby in there is even picking up whether mom and dad love the child and are excited for its arrival, or whether they are fighting all the time and bummed about the fact that a child is about to change their world.
Science and medicine have published multiple studies that show the effects of cellular memory on a child, including behavioral issues and so much more.  There is a plethora of research available online.  Type in what you are searching for and multiple websites and studies from Harvard Medical Center, and multiple universities around the country are most likely to have the information you are searching for.
I would love to hear your thoughts about my posts.  Share with your friends.
Monday, I will share more about cellular memory and children as they grow.  Have a great weekend everyone. 🙂